What is the psychology of this?

So I girl I knew from college a while back found me on Facebook.. we only met once during college.. well she messages me all week about wanting to hang out this past weekend. She then says she can't she has stuff to do. Well she messages me again with her phone number and tells me to "call her any time" and she would love for me to call... She gave me her # on friday, I was out of town all weekend so I could not call sooner.. I did ask her if it was alright I'd call, she said yes and she would like that





Well I call her tonight, no answer, so I leave a voice mail. I go online and she is online on Facebook..





What the heck is up with that??? What do I do now?

What is the psychology of this?
She is fishing.


Don't follow up anymore. You are just caught up in her game.
Reply:If you find a girl in a bar, expect her to be a drinker. If you find her in Facebook, expect to see her there again. When you are looking for a pardner, be where you want her to be from.
Reply:You say you met her in college and you only met once. Well, I say she must have been pretty impressed by you to have hunted you down so she could ask you out and give you her number, or she is trying to put another hole in her belt if you get my drift and she only intends to do it when a time is convenient for her. I think she probably was busy, and if she is anything like me she hates answering the phone when she is online or she could be like my daughter and constantly have headphones on. I don't know how my daughter can hear herself think with those things on all the time much less hear the phone. Well that's one explanation why she may have had the answering machine on and not heard your call. You will just have to follow your gut on that one. : )
Reply:Not only is she "punking" you. But you look like you have no self-esteem, because you just exploited yourself. You gotta be more manlike and move on to a more socially stable woman.
Reply:Well, there's always the possibility that she's busy whenever you come around or something. Or maybe she's just insecure. She probably likes to take initiative at first, but then when reality hits that something might actually happen she gets scared and becomes an insecure wreck. There's a lot of disorders out there like bipolar and dissoaciative. But I'm it's not the case with her. I sometimes stay online without noticing and people write to me and I dont answer because I dotn know Im still on. Dont worry...I'm sure you'll catch her at a good time and hopefully things will work out.