HELP!!!!! it seems like my boyfriend of 2 years is hiding our relationship???

hi, my boyfriend and i have been dating for 2 years now. we both went to the


same college, but he just graduated last may. i am 19 he is 23. the people who


matter...like his entire family, and his closest friends know me and loves me.


but it seems like other than that...no one else knows. girls will flirt with


him, but none of them or anyone else for that matter who attend our university


know thaat we are in a relationship. he says that as long as his parents, and


the rest of his family and his friends know, and my family and friends, then the


others don't count. he claims that he doesnt like alot of people in his


business. other than the girls flirting with him almost everyday, he treats me


extremely well. when we were in school, we went out every weekend and


practically lived together. but the only thing thats bothring me is...recently


he became a member of "Facebook" an online network for college students, and he


refuses to put that he is in a relationship with me on there


(not that it matters..i just don't want to feel like I'm being hidden..thats


the worst feeling in the world!). and to top it off, he erased a comment i wrote


on his wall calling him a little pet name that i have called him for the past 2


years. but yet, girls send him messages and write on his wall all day, and no


matter what they write, he leaves it up there and only erases mine (and that is


not the 1st time he has done that). one girl even calls him her superman...and


he doesnt erase that. i feel like i'm just good for him when we are in private,


with his friends, or with his family. do you think that i am over-reacting??? i


try to respect that he is a fairly private person, but erasing my comments and


leaving the other girl's comments up there just makes me think that he is hiding


something. i really love him and i know he loves me too, but what do you think?


i realy need advice asap!!!!!!!!

HELP!!!!! it seems like my boyfriend of 2 years is hiding our relationship???
He is testing the boundaries of his relationship with you. He doesn't have to wear a sign saying he is taken but to act like he is single and free when he is on this "Facebook" is something that has to be nipped in the bud.





I can see where he might want to keep the pet name you use for him private. For heavens sake, I call my husband and my son all kinds of pet names that would humiliate them in public. However, it seems that he is trying to "act" like an online single. This does not mean that he does not love you. It means he is testing the waters. If he was my boyfriend I would play the same game. He wants to be an online single then you can become a member of "Facebook" and pretend to be single as well. What's good for the goose is good for the gander...





You can also come clean with him...tell him that he has really hurt your feelings by deleting your comments and leaving other girls comments up. If he says it is because he is trying to keep his private life private then tell him you respect that but he needs to compromise. If he doesn't want you to post intimate comments because they are too personal and real then ask him to honor you by at least admitting that he is in a serious relationship.





If he still wants to pretend that he is single then tell him "how about let's not pretend...how about we take a break and see what it would be like to date other people". You may not want to do this but you may have to risk it. It is up to you.
Reply:I think you are 19.
Reply:It sounds to me the boy has an issue and needs a reality check make him think. Don't give in give him the facts and if he doesn't like it then he isn't worth your time you can find some one better for you one who will scream from the roof tops that he is with you and loves you, and won't erase your comments from the wall and won't let some other chick call him her superman.





That would really bother me to so i understand how you feel its not cool. I hope everything works in your favor.
Reply:Sweetie, during college years and after, people often change a lot. I hate to burst your bubble, but could it be that he is getting tired of your and his relationship and wants to date other girls?





He is 23 years old now, may be taking a serious look at his relationship with you, life in general, and checking out what's on the playing field.





You, yourself should not be so immersed in one person that you have no other life. Expand your horizons also.
Reply:DANNG! TWO YEARS? How u keep ur relationship lasts that long? anyway, just forget him, he aint worth ur time, but what do i know? I didn't even read anything u wrote except da headline!
Reply:it sounds to me that he IS hiding you because he only hides you from other girls??? if that is the case then he is obviously looking to find a better girl and just keeping you so he won't be lonely. dump him
Reply:If you love him and he loves you, then you need to sit down and have a heart to heart. Tell him that this bothering you. Ask him why he doesn't want anyone knowing that you guys are in a relationship other than his family and close friends. No, ask him why he doesn't want other women knowing that you are in a relationship. I would think that he is hiding something also. So talk to him and hopefully he will be honest with you. Good Luck!
Reply:do you really need the brutal truth move on girl he is wasting you valuable time
Reply:your semon is too long. talk with him, tell him all what you want and how you want them, then always listen to him